Monthly Archives: March 2009

Credit card limits being slashed

Almost three months ago in mid December, I wrote a post about my concerns that people’s credit card limits were suddenly being slashed.  Well, it’s good the mainstream news eventually gets around to covering issues that are happening in real people’s lives, so that the masses can be warned. Here’s a recent article now being featured at the top of Yahoo news as of today.

Take a look at this to see what’s going on – by the time the mainstream news covers something, it’s usually not anything new, but so prevalent that it’s a major issue for a lot of people.   This article makes it sound a lot more mild than it actually is, since a huge number of people facing this scenario aren’t able to quickly pay off their cards or reduce their spending to below their limits, making for massive fees (note that no one in that situation was featured).  The article didn’t mention that credit card companies are also suddenly drastically raising interest rates, something that should be of concern to anyone who doesn’t pay off their accounts in full each month.  If you are still heavily dependent on your credit cards, please, start weaning yourself off of them immediately.

Also, I think it’s prudent to keep an eye on your credit card account just in case there’s a sudden policy change that takes effect.  Don’t think you’ll get any warning.  For the last few months I’ve been checking mine twice a month instead of just once (an online account makes this easy), because getting a bill that shows lots of unexpected fees isn’t fun, and neither is trying to argue with a credit card company representative to have them refund those fees.  Prevention is the best cure, and forewarned is forearmed!

Avivah

Time to get started Pesach cleaning…or is it?

Until last night, I had a very straightforward plan for the day – start Pesach cleaning, which meant organizing the attic storage, and everyone getting started on their bedrooms.  When I make a cleaning schedule, I always make it very relaxed, so there’s never more than an hour or two at the maximum to clean each day (until the last couple of days when we do the kitchen).  I don’t schedule cleaning on Thursdays, and for the first couple of weeks, don’t schedule anything for Wednesdays, either.

It’s a good thing that I build in flexibility, because today, the very first day, I already need it!  After Shabbos, a few of my kids came home with announcements:  1) dd8 was invited to a birthday party today at 12:30;  2) dd12 heard about a one day clothing sale being held today that she wants to go to, first thing in the day;  3)  dd12 was told by the rebbetzin of our shul that there are free tickets available for me to take the older two girls to a play being shown tonight – there are some extra because patrons get a certain amount, but some of the patrons don’t need all of the tickets they have available – 8 pm, needing to leave by 7:25 pm;  4) dd14 told me that they have a vort (engagement party) to attend for the young lady who was directing their choir, 6 pm.

Then this morning there’s another call – the engaged friend asked if the older two dds can come early to help set up for the vort. Can they be there at 1 pm?  Sure, no problem.  Then another call – the birthday party is being changed to 12.  Sure, no problem.  Can dds come and practice a dance for the friend who is getting engaged during the time the birthday party is going on?  Sure, no problem.   And then a friend calls me to tell me her dd19 just got engaged and the vort for her is tonight, from 5 – 8 pm.  Sure, I’ll be there.

Meanwhile, on the home front, I optimistically think I’ll start cleaning.  Since the toddlers are both awake, I decide to shift gears from cleaning a room where it will be hard to supervise them, and instead organize the bookshelves in the dining room – they get very messy since too many people in this family think that shoving something onto any shelf, whether it’s a double layer or placing it horizontally, is putting it away.  🙂  While I start, my 18 month old helps himself to some sliced challah from the bread drawer, and brings it to where I’m working and starts repeatedly putting his slices of bread (he took two) on the shelves I’m cleaning, which makes me smile because this is why you have to clean all those areas you think shouldn’t have had any chometz (leaven) on them.  Then I take a break to read a couple of books to the older toddler (he’s getting very good at choosing long ones), and then ds6 comes down to tell me that their closet is looking really nice.  So I go upstairs to check on progress on that front.

I told you dd15 wanted to rebuild his closet, right?  That’s what he’s been doing the last couple of days, ie, Friday and now today.  And ds6 and ds10 seem to be unable to do anything but sit on their beds for hours at a time and watch him.  Not exactly hard at work in there, but I figure they’re bonding, so why not?  🙂   Ds15 is really doing a great job – I can’t figure out how he made the tracks for the three sliding door panels for the top shelf of the closet, but he did and they work great.  I don’t know how he even thought of the concept, let alone made it work!  So that’s where his energies are focused now, and the boys’ room is a wreck.  Everything has been pulled out of the closet and dumped on the beds and floor – and until he finishes painting the closet (that’s what he’s in the middle of right now), there’s no way to clean anything in there.

Ds6 was right, the closet is looking good; ds15 has done the first coat of paint, and it’s looking very nice.  I admire it, and tell him that ds 18 months is on his way up the stairs after me to ‘admire’ the room too, and to be aware.  I leave the room, and less than two minutes later,  hear ds15 yell in frustration.  Little toddler has done what he’s best at, gotten into something. 🙂  He walked right over to the paint can, almost dumping the entire can over (fortunately, didn’t succeed because ds grabbed the can in time), but not before getting some on his pants and shirt (incidentally, a new one that is his nicest everyday outfit).   I go back in and mention to ds15 that I had just finished warning him ds18 months was on the way (he obviously wasn’t really paying attention), and ask ds10 to grab him before he spreads any of the paint on his clothes onto something else, which he does.  He also washes out the outfit, and though it’s not as good as new, it will still be useable.  I resign myself to nothing happening in that room but the closet for the rest of the day, especially since soon before that, ds15 made a phone date with his options mentor for 3 pm, which is less than an hour and a half away.  I told him that the room has to be finished by then, but even though he assured me everything will be done, I don’t believe it!

So – this is what my simple day turned into – older dds walked dd8 to her party at noon, and are staying for duration of party to prepare dance with friend.  Then they’ll go to help friend set up for vort.  Then they’ll walk home, stopping at clothing sale on the way.  Then they’ll eat a late lunch when they get home.  Since it’s not going to be long that they’ll be at home before I have to leave for vort, I’m going to drop any suggestions of Pesach cleaning for today and just focus on having dinner on the table on time.  They did straighten up their room somewhat earlier in the morning, so I’ll count that. 🙂    Dh gets home from work around 5 pm, so I’ll leave as soon as he gets here for the vort, so I can get there are the very beginning, so I can get back home in time to take the girls to their vort at 6 pm.

Then they’ll attend their vort, and I’ll pick them up and we’ll go directly to the play, so that we’ll arrive there in time.  When we get home from the play, it should be time for bed.  🙂  Meanwhile at home, at some point the closet will get finished, the clothes will get rehung, and everyone will have time for dinner before going to sleep.  That’s the idea, anyway.

Right now, I think I’ll try to get some veggies shredded to pop into the dehydrator, once I put the toddlers in for a nap, sort some laundry, maybe clean the tops of the bookshelves (didn’t finish all of the shelves, but they are significantly improved), and eat some lunch.  Not the day I planned, but a nice day for everyone, and productive in its own way!

Avivah

Starting lasagna beds

Wow, I have had a very full and productive afternoon! 

Last night I saw an ad on Craig’s List by someone who had free composted horse manure available.  (Composted, for those who don’t know gardening terms, means that it’s broken down to be rich soil, no smell.)  I emailed him last night for details, and called him early in the afternoon to confirm when I’d be coming.  I was going to take just my ds10, and then said my dd8 could come, and then ds6 asked if he could also come, so I said, ‘sure’.  And then my almost 3 yos also wanted to come, and I almost successfully put my foot down, but then thought about how much he’d appreciate getting out of the house.  So I took him, too.:)

Compost is so valuable to the soil that I’ve often seen it referred to as black gold, and people pay a good price for it.  So being able to get as much as I wanted for free was a big boon!  I asked the guy who had the compost what would be the best way to bring it home, and he suggested bringing shovels and five gallon buckets.  I only have one shovel (not including the kiddie one), so ds10 suggested calling friends of ours to see if they had any shovels.  Since they didn’t answer when we phoned them, we swung by on our way there, and they had just gotten home.  They lent us several shovels, and we took their 9 and 10 year old boys with us to shovel compost – our exciting field trip for the day!

So off we went, and it was really a beautiful day and a nice outing.  The kids all worked hard – even my littlest one took a little pail and a garden trowel so he could fill his bucket.  He felt very accomplished.  They filled up the equivalent of 20 five gallon buckets with compost to take back home for our garden to be.  I think there’s something really invigorating and simultaneously relaxing about working hard outside on a beautiful day.

There were horses, cows, a billy goat, and a flock of chickens there, and the kids enjoyed being able to look around and see all the animals.  Initially my ds2 was so apprehensive about the chickens that he was actually shivering when he was walking towards the barn area, and so my ds10 walked with him to reassure him.  It didn’t take long before he was telling me how nice the chickens were – “the chickens are my best friends” was what he told me when we came home. 

On the way home, I stopped at the supermarket to get a bunch of cardboard boxes so that we’d be able to unload the compost right away.  Cardboard is the first recommended layer for lasagna gardening, which when placed on the ground kills the grass or weeds underneath and provides a dark and moist place for earthworms to make their homes.  Compost is the next layer.  The idea behind lasagna gardening is to layer different kinds of organic materials and let it break down over time to be a good growing soil, thereby minimizing the hands on effort involved in preparing the soil for a garden. 

I made two twenty foot rows with the cardboard, and the kids poured out all of the compost on top of the cardboard.  Then we raked a bunch of leaves on top of that, from the leaves we had piled along the sides of the fence during the fall for this purpose.  I was amazed at how much compost we needed – I thought we must surely have gotten enough to practically cover my entire yard!  Not anywhere close. 

It’s really fast to put together a lasagna bed once you have the materials, and it’s so nice to have gotten this done.  I’ve been thinking about doing it for quite a while, and have been procrastinating because I wanted to have a fence all around the yard before I started, since it makes the yard look kind of untidy where you heap the organic matter.  I still don’t have a fence, but when I saw the offer of free compost, I decided to get started anyway.  I told my dh all last summer how much I wanted a fence, but this year I think he realizes that I really mean it.  Maybe when I said that we’ll pay retail for the fence if I can’t find it used that helped him realize that it’s a priority for me! 

It’s supposed to rain tonight, and I’m delighted to have this done before then, as the rain will help break everything down.  I’m also glad to have it taken care of before I get busy next week with Pesach preparations.  Officially in this gardening zone, it will be another two months before we can put out warm weather plants in the garden, so now I don’t have to do much but let these newly prepared garden beds ‘cook’ between now and then.  

I realized recently that my garden last year wasn’t the failure that I thought it was – it was more a matter of having an unrealistic idea of how much we could produce in the small amount of yard we dedicated to our garden, and I realized that if we wanted anything more significant, we’d need to use more of the yard.  I’d like to use my side yard for a garden this year, too, and I’m thinking that I might need to make another trip or two back for more compost!  But it’s a big chunk of time – including the driving in each direction, loading/unloading/spreading the compost, it took about five hours.  Which is basically an entire afternoon.  So I’ll have to see where preparing more lasagna beds falls on my list of priorities in the coming week or two, and if this is all that I get around to doing, it will still more than double the gardening area we’ll have available compared to last year. 

Avivah

Buying strawberry and blackberry plants

I just finished placing an order for 25 strawberry plants and 2 thornless blackberry canes, for less than $25.  I’ve been thinking for months about getting some of these (along with blueberry bushes), but didn’t come to any decision.  When I heard about this great online deal, I decided to finally stop thinking about it and take action. 

Spring Hill Nursery is having a special right now where you can get $20 of free plants.  Two blackberry canes would be just $20, which means you can get them free except for shipping (an additional 7.95).  I couldn’t decide between the strawberries or blackberries, so decided to get both. 🙂  Both of these are plants that come up year after year, and don’t need to be replanted, so it’s a one time expense.  If I remember what I read about blackberries, they tend to spread, so hopefully the two canes will turn into more without any further financial investment on my part.

Here’s the link, if anyone is interested: http://springhillnursery.com/article.asp?mid=659596-2-0-ARTICLE-0&ai=583&sid=414217&eid=081506&lm=&eicioi&bhcd2=1236204630.  The $20 will come off of your order automatically – last night I started to order, and thought I needed some kind of coupon code that I didn’t have so I planned to call the order in this morning.  I was too tired to notice that it had already been taken off the final price!

Avivah

Hummous recipe from shalach manos

I got a call from a friend last night, saying the hummous we sent in our shalach manos tasted exactly like the garlic hummous made by Sabra.  She asked for the recipe, saying it would much cheaper to make it herself than to buy it! 

We made two batches, one with fresh garlic, and one with garlic powder, and I don’t know which she got from.  They should taste basically the same, but I can’t guarantee it.  I’m not making any claim to making a perfect imitation of the Sabra recipe; I’ve never even tasted it!  Here’s the recipe we used, with our adaptations:

Avivah’s Purim Hummous

  • 1 c. cooked garbanzo beans (also called chick peas)
  • 1 T. tahini (the pure sesame paste, not prepared)
  • 2 T. lemon juice
  • 2 cloves garlic, finely chopped, or 1/2 t. garlic powder
  • 1/3 c. bean liquid/water
  • 1 t. sea salt

Blend the garbanzo beans in the food processor.  When smooth, add the rest of the ingredients, and give them a quick whiz.  Once it was in the containers, we sprinkled a few whole garbanzos on top along with a bit of paprika. 

If you use dried garbanzo beans and cook them yourself, this becomes a very, very inexpensive spread.  A pound of garbanzos equals around 4 cups cooked, and I recently was able to find them for .79 lb (until then I was getting them for around 1.69 lb).  It’s a nice spread to make for Shabbos, quick to make and yummy to eat (and nutritious, too, of course!).  Once you make it yourself, you’ll wonder why you ever thought it was worth spending so much money buying it!

Avivah

Recovering from Purim

I hope all of you had a wonderful Purim!  We had a great Purim, beginning with the megilla reading, followed by the Purim shpiel – it’s even more fun to watch when someone you love has been involved in putting it together.  I’m not a hammy kind of person, so it’s good for my kids to have my dh as a model of being comfortable being funny or out of character, in a good way. 

The next morning there was a forty minute window in the morning that was very hairy. Not very fun at all.  But that’s how life is –  you plan and think you have everything worked out, and then you get a major curve ball that forces you to reevaluate fast.  And sometimes you can’t change mental gears that fast. 

Since my dh took our only vehicle to work at noon, which I hadn’t initially been taking into consideration, we ended up having only 35 very rushed minutes to do our deliveries.  That was the part that wasn’t part of the plan and wasn’t fun, and usually this is my favorite part of Purim.  But we adapted and when we got home and he got off to work, I mentally resolved to be relaxed, enjoy the day, and shift out of that overly hectic and pressured head space.  The kids ended up doing a lot of deliveries on foot – we only had time to do the furthest deliveries by car – so they were pretty busy during the afternoon.  I stayed busy organizing and reorganizing all the various mishloach manos that came in (it’s a non stop effort clearing the table on Purim), as well as trying to keep the two little ones out of it – that wasn’t so easy!  I also had time for three long phone conversations with friends, and a couple of pleasant visits with other friends who stopped by.  It was nice to be able to slow down and enjoy connecting with others during the day.

The seuda was very nice, and was also different than what I planned.  About 1 pm, I decided to totally make a different meal plan, and to do dairy (we’ve never done that before).  It was pretty simple, but everyone enjoyed it – challah rolls, thick vegetable soup, homemade pizza (equal to about three or four pies), chevre (goat cheese), cottage cheese, roasted potatoes and yams with rosemary, and a big fresh salad.  And we put out orange juice and milk to drink, in addition to water.  For dessert we had banana chocolate chip cake, chocolate cake (both cakes were from shalach manos), and rice pudding.  It wasn’t traditional but it was definitely enjoyed by all!  I was able to put it together in the afternoon for the most part even without the kids being available to help (they did end up making the veggie soup and pizza later on), and do it without rushing, which is why I changed gears.  I realized plan A wasn’t going to work as planned. 

Today was a mellow kind of day.  I always think it’s good to take at least a day off to slowly get back into regular life.  The boys two days ago decided to totally rearrange their bedroom, which meant moving everything around.  And that meant that there was a lot of stuff that had been hiding under beds, behind the dresser, etc, that came to the forefront.  Yesterday ds15 took care of some of the big stuff, and this morning they all finished up together.  I reminded them that in a week they would have been cleaning for Pesach anyway, so they’re counting themselves fortunate to be able to kill two birds with one stone and get it done now.  It’s nice to know that one room is already done, and without me saying a single word of suggestion about it!  I wouldn’t have thought of the set up they did, but it looks great, is a better use of the space, and they’re happy with it. 

Then two of the girls decided they wanted to also totally shift their bedroom around, but I didn’t like their ideas, and suggested that they clean it thoroughly instead.  Nice of me, hmm??  Then ds15 and I went to the building reuse supply place, to buy some materials for him – he wants to do something to the inside of his closet.  I’m honestly not sure what he’s talking about – pulling everything out, covering parts of the inner closet walls with plywood, building sliding doors for the shelf at the top, and repainting it all in a lighter color – I really can’t picture what he’s describing.  But I bought the materials he said he wanted, and trust him to make it look good.  I guess you could say I’m giving him artistic license.  He’s earned it after past building projects in our house that he’s been involved with.

Then we popped into the thrift store on the way home, and got the youngest four boys shirts for Pesach, along with new sneakers for my older toddler and some Shabbos shoes in the next size up for him, and couple of very nice ties for ds15 (good thing he was along with me – that’s the one clothing item that I can’t buy without him, I just don’t have an intuitive sense of what kind of ties he likes).  I have a few new shirts still in the packages for ds15 and dh that I bought around Chanuka time, and the girls and I also did some shopping in the winter when there was a big going out of business sale of one of the modest clothes designers.  I bought the girls shoes a month or more ago, and they also cleaned out the bottom of their closet, as well as their very full shoe box, and discovered they had nice shoes that they had forgotten about.  I got ds15 and dh shoes last month, and ds10 and ds6 have shoes in good condition (though ds6 usually isn’t sure where both shoes are at the same time on any given Shabbos smilie), as well as Shabbos shoes the next size up in the attic.  So I think they should all be basically set for Pesach clothes at this point – I’ll check the boxes in the attic on Sunday and make sure that everyone has what they need.  You know how it is, there’s always someone growing out of what you thought would fit them!

My ds6 is challenging me to find clothes that fit him properly.  Like all of my kids, he’s tall for his age, but he’s also huskier than his older brothers.  So anything that fits in the waist is too long, and all the clothes I have in the box for his size are too tight.  I bought him three pairs of pants today, and count myself lucky that one of them fit him.  The others won’t go to waste – they’ll go into the attic boxes for the next boy to wear.  It’s great having so many kids, because it takes the pressure out of clothes shopping.  I don’t worry about getting something that doesn’t fit and wasting money, because I know it will end up fitting someone, eventually! 

I spent a little bit of time today making a schedule for Pesach cleaning – I refuse to clean anything for Pesach until the Sunday after Purim.  I won’t even think about it.  There’s a season for everything, and I like to really have Purim over with before moving on to preparing for the next yom tov.  I was feeling a little more time pressured than I usually do, because right before Purim I realized that after Purim, it’s just four weeks until Pesach, and I’m officially due three weeks after that.  That might not seem so close to you, but last time the baby was born three weeks early, and when a week ago my midwife gave me the list of supplies to get for the birth, and told me that she’ll be coming every two weeks instead of every month, suddenly it didn’t seem very far away at all.  It was almost unnerving.  Not only that, but most people around here still have no idea that I’m pregnant (well, they might be wondering a little, but no one is saying anything), unless I outright tell them!  

I always find it relaxing to make the schedule, because it gets all the things to do out of your head and onto paper, and then it leaves my head empty.  (That doesn’t sound right, does it? :))  Empty of the pressure of keeping track of all of those little details is what I mean.  And this time was no exception; the kids and I went over when everyone wants to turn over the kitchen (I don’t have very strong feelings about it, so I take into account their opinions on this – they’re a lot more motivated to be involved in the cleaning when the schedule is created according to their preferences), and it’s all down in my planner now.  Once it’s on the planner, the main work has practically been done.  Stephen Covey says the first creation is the mental creation, and that’s certainly true.

Then I did my next tiny bit of Pesach preparations, doing an inventory of the pantry for chometz to use up.  (Actually, my ten year old did this, but I did tell him to do it, so maybe I still get credit for doing it?)  That’s helpful because I don’t like to eat imbalanced meals (like pasta every single night) for the last week before Pesach just to use up the foods that would otherwise be thrown away.  We don’t have too much to use up, mostly eight boxes of spelt soup croutons and a few boxes of pasta.  And loads of oatmeal. 

So it was a nice relaxing day, and I’ll go to sleep in a few minutes feeling accomplished and ready to get back onto our regular homeschooling routine in the morning.

Avivah

Warehouse stores – saving you money?

I often see the suggestion made to join a warehouse store to save money on food and paper goods, because it’s assumed that it’s going to be a cheaper option.  I used to shop at warehouse stores, but now I seriously question if it’s a financial savings for most shoppers. 

First of all, there’s the membership fee of about $40 for a year.  That doesn’t sound like much, right?  In a year, of course you’ll save lots more than that!  Or will you?  So let’s start by looking to see if you can recoup your fee, which you’ll have to do to break even.  (There’s no savings unless you can do more than break even, obviously.)

Saving money in a warehouse store is an art, but most people think that all they have to do is shop there to save money!  They walk around dumping oversized packages of whatever strikes their fancy into their carts, positive that it’s lots cheaper than they could buy it for in a regular supermarket.  Everyone knows that buying in bulk will save money, and seemingly, when you’re in a warehouse store, you’re buying in bulk.  But things aren’t always what they may seem, and that’s an assumption that will cost you money.  My hesitations about endorsing warehouse stores as money saving options are below.

1) First of all, the majority of food items sold in warehouse stores are processed items.  When you buy processed foods, you’re buying foods that are full of additives, GMOs, high fructose corn syrup, plus bad fats like cottonseed/vegetable/soybean oil.   And you’re paying significantly more than the cost of ingredients themselves, for the convenience of not having to make the food yourself.   Right off the bat, I’d tell you to cut your convenience food consumption and that will make a much bigger dent in your food budget than shopping at stores like these.  But I know that many people enjoy these foods and don’t want to give them up, and are happy to get them a little cheaper.  So once you’ve determined the item you’re considering is a value for you to purchase, look at the unit pricing.  How much is it per ounce?  How does it compare to the per ounce cost of a smaller box at your supermarket?  You need to know this information to be an educated shopper.  It might be a little less expensive than the regularly priced item (or not – the Sam’s Club here is in the same complex as Walmart, and I often can find the same thing cheaper at Walmart – and you don’t need a membership to shop at Walmart).  But once you start comparing the sale prices of the supermarket items to warehouse items, the super-sized boxes stop looking so appealing! 

2) Then, most of the foods in the warehouse store are brand names, with the exception of the one store brand.  Name brand companies have spent plenty on advertising to make people think they’re offering top value, but in reality, there’s not much difference between most of the companies.  Recognizing this makes it easier to stay away from name brands, and choosing the less expensive labels is another good way to save money (not including fantastic sales or couponing, which can make it possible to spend less on name brands, but which only apply in regular supermarkets). 

3) What about when it’s not less expensive to buy in the larger package?  Don’t make the mistake of thinking that because you’re buying a fifty pound bag of something, it by default must be cheaper.  I haven’t found this to be the case at all.  On a regular basis I find it less expensive to buy items in the smaller packages – for example, it’s significantly cheaper for me to buy 1 lb bags of beans or rice than to buy it in 25 or 50 pound bags.  It may be counterintuitive, but it’s true.  Again, you need to know what the unit pricing on the item is.

4) So you’ve determined the item is a good value, and you bring it home.  Do you use it in the same quantities you would otherwise have used it?  When I shopped at these stores, I found myself buying larger amounts of things than needed because ‘it was such a good deal’.  But if you’d usually use a standard box of Cheerios for your children’s breakfast, and you end up using a mega sized box (ie, double) instead because you feel it was so cheap, you haven’t really saved anything.  You’ve just spent almost double what you would have otherwise, without even realizing how you’re draining your budget – because you’re busy feeling so good that you bought your Cheerios cheaply.  People do the same thing when being extravagant in the use of paper plates or paper napkins, because they bought so much. That’s fine if your goal is to increase your quantities, but don’t fool yourself and think that you’ve saved money. 

5) I also found myself buying things that I didn’t really need, just because it seemed like a good price.  So you need to be sure that you won’t fritter away whatever savings you think you’re gaining by buying things that you don’t really need.

I found that there were only about three items that were money savers for me, and none of them justified the cost of membership – 40 lb bucket of powdered laundry detergent, instant yeast, and dishwashing liquid.  At the end of my membership period, I bought enough of those items to last for six months.  I had initially planned to renew after six months passed (thereby getting 18 months of shopping out of my 12 month membership), but then realized that it would be more worthwhile to put some energy into finding cheaper alternatives or better sources for those items.  And that’s what I did.  I’m able to easily find every single item I ever used to buy at the same price or less without ever entering a warehouse store.

(Obviously, if you live where there are several large supermarkets, there will be more competitive sales on food and paper goods than for someone who lives in a very rural area and has only one small local store.  In that case, they’d probably save money at the warehouse store.  I don’t think the majority of shoppers fit into this category, though.)

To sum up, psychologically warehouse stores are very effective, because people really believe they’re saving money. And if their prior option was to shop at regular supermarket prices for name brand processed foods, they will save money.  But for the careful shopper, she’d be hard pressed to save enough to cover her membership fees in the course of a year.

Avivah

Tracking your expenses

>>Do you have a budget? If so, how did you create your budget?” 

The answer is yes, I do keep to a budget, but since there are a few steps in beginning to budget, in order that this will be of help I’ll start at with the first thing first.

The very first thing you need to do is track your spending – every penny of it.  If you use debit and credit cards exclusively, this will be very easy.  Take your last three months of bank/credit card statements out.  If you use any cash at all, make a note of this, too, no matter how small or insignificant it seems to be.  Twenty dollar bills get frittered away with frightening ease with nothing to show for it, and you need to know where it’s gone.  Then , write down exactly what you spent and what it was spent on. 

After you’ve written everything down, look at where your money went.  You’ll see some categories emerge – food, bills (each one should be it’s own category), clothing, transportation, gas, medical, etc.  Write down each category at the top of a paper, and then write down under it the expenses that relate to that.  If you have so many things that you find the expenses hard to categorize, that’s fine. More categories will probably help you keep things clear than fewer.

Once you’ve done this, total up how much you’ve spent in each category.  This will give you a very clear idea of exactly where your money is going, and you must know what your real spending is and where it’s going.  Someone with six kids a couple of months ago told me she spent $150 a week on food.  I told her I’d love to hear her tips because she’s clearly using a lot of frugal strategies to achieve that.  She looked surprised and told me she wasn’t especially careful.  I right away knew that she had no idea what she was really spending.  About six weeks later we bumped into each other again, and she told me that she was totally wrong, that she spent significantly more than she thought (as in $400 a week).  But it wasn’t until we spoke that she started to pay attention to it. 

You can see how it’s going to be hard to budget successfully if you think you spend $600 in a given category, and are really spending $1600!  And it’s also going to affect your receptiveness to getting your costs in order, if you think you already are being careful.  (Here’s something I’ve found – most people think they are pretty reasonable in their spending, regardless of their debt loads.)  So reality is important to have on your side. 

Here are my categories: maaser (tithe – this gets taken off the top before anything), mortgage, car insurance, telephone, gas (for the vehicle), gas/electric, life insurance for dh, life ins. for me, transportation (for dh), midwife (she’s wonderful about letting me make monthly payments instead of one large lump sum), clothing, savings.  I have specific categories at certain times of year for holiday expenses that I determine in advance (before Purim includes mishloach manos, matanos le’evyonim; Pesach includes shmura matza and other related expenses).  I also have a miscellaneous category, but I don’t suggest you do that until you’ve been tracking your spending for a while and are already very careful with your money.  It’s too easy to get sloppy about that.

 Don’t be afraid of this step.  Once you know what you’re spending, then you can start to have fun slashing every single category.  There are so many frugal strategies in every area of life, and it’s very exciting to see how much less you can spend without compromising your quality of life.  In fact, living responsibly within your financial means and utilizing your creative side to do that not only doesn’t compromise your quality of life, but greatly improves it!  As I’ve said before, frugality isn’t about doing without; it’s about finding out what’s most important to you and making sure your spending responsibly reflects that.  It’s definitely a lot more fun to live debt free, knowing when you spend on something that you really have the money to buy it and to find alternatives when you don’t have the money, than to live in denial. 

Avivah

More Purim preparations

I bet all of you are in the swing of Purim preparations by now!  Isn’t it fun?  I came home tonight to find my oldest two girls still awake.  One decided today she wasn’t happy with the costume she had planned, so she created something new.  She used a huge light brown suede shirt that we picked up when we got those free clothes I mentioned a week and a half ago, and cut it up and fringed it to make a Native American dress.  It looks really good!  I love seeing my children exercise creativity and initiative . 

My other dd was busy sewing costume props for my dh.  He’s writing the shul Purim shpiel this year – he did it a couple of years ago, and didn’t think he’d have time for it again when they asked him this year.  But after telling them ‘no’, he squeezed some time from here and there, and now my dd is sewing the props he wants for the shpiel.  He titled it, The Adventures of Super Jew and Bar Mitzva Boy, so most of what she’s making right now is a cape, and several two color logos that go on the chest (like the Superman S).  She’s also using the free clothing stuff we got off of Craig’s List to make them – a royal blue graduation gown and a red satin ladies shirt. 

The kids put their shalach manos together today, and my older dds baked the challahs for our family to send out.  I decided to send challah rolls with homemade hummous – I have to buy some small containers for the hummous in the morning.  We’ll bag the challahs tomorrow and put the hummous in the containers, so early Purim morning, all we’ll have to do is quickly assemble it in the baskets with cellophane.  (Including the basket and plastic container for hummous, the total cost for each one will be .75 or so, and it will make a nice looking shalach manos.)   I’d rather have it all assembled earlier than that, but practically speaking don’t have room for all the baskets in the fridge.  Since everything else will be done, it should work out fine.  

My dd14 is also decorating the house – it’s something she enjoys, and I’m happy to let her do it!  She stayed up late with me to wait for the challahs to finish baking, and used her time to hang a mobile that she made from the dining room light fixture.  She also got my dh to make a great poster (he’s the one with artistic talent, not me!) that she put up on our bulletin board.

Tomorrow night will end up being a late night, since we have the Purim shpiel after the megilla reading, and we always get home late.  The next day shouldn’t be too rushed, though, since my dh is working part of the day, and we won’t be having our seuda until 6 pm.  That will give us plenty of time to do all the deliveries (which are always a fun part of the day – we all go together and deliver to everyone’s friends.)  So far only one child has given me his list, and tomorrow the others will need to tell me who they’re giving to, so I can map out the master delivery route.

And don’t forget that Purim is a special day for davening (prayer)!  I’m going to actively plan out some time in advance to be sure that the day doesn’t go by without me taking advantage of this unique spiritual opportunity. 

I hope that all of you have a fun and meaningful Purim!

Avivah

PS – I won’t be posting my weekly menu this week, since we have so many leftovers from Shabbos, plus with Purim things will be different than usual.

The Coming Economic Earthquake – book

I’ve mentioned that I love to read, and generally have a pile that I’m in the middle of reading at any given time on various topics.  One area that’s been of interest to me for years is finances.  I’ve heard several times that Dave Ramsey (whose books I think are great) has very effectively marketed the ideas of Larry Burkett, and finally decided to read some of Larry Burkett’s books.

I just finished a book by Burkett entitled The Coming Economic Earthquake.  This book was written in 1991, and details the concerns Burkett had about the economy and his predictions as to how it would play out.  As he said in his intro, he went out on a limb to write this, since if he was right, people would say he was lucky, and if he was wrong, people would say he didn’t know what he was talking about, but he felt it was his obligation to warn people about what he saw coming.  He estimated his predictions would play out around the year 2000, though he said it could take longer.  When asked before he died if he thought he had been off track in making these predictions since it hadn’t yet happened, he said, no, he thought it would be even worse than he predicted because the longer the delay, the worse the earthquake.

This book was riveting reading, and I told my ds15 and dd14 that I thought they’d enjoy reading it, too.  (They have to read for an hour a day from something I’ve approved – that hour doesn’t include their recreational reading – so I would allow this for their official reading.)  It’s very clear, interesting, and systematically puts together a lot of information that I’ve spent months assembling for myself from various sources.  What makes it especially interesting is to see how on target he was – every day right now, every time I hear the news or read an online financial article, I see exactly what he was predicting playing out.  Whereas someone might have discounted what he wrote even two years ago as unlikely and alarmist, now it’s almost eery to see how on target he was.

Last February, long before there was any news or discussion about it, I became very concerned about the economy, and shared that privately with some of you.  I’ve been asked about what my concerns were based on, and tried to succinctly respond by summing up several major factors, how they tied in together, and how they would affect all of us.  Larry Burkett has done a much better job than I ever could in explaining this!  I really recommend this book, to understand many aspects of the economy and why what we’re going through is happening. As I said, it’s clear and easy to read, unlike other books filled with graphs and technical jargon that I’ve found challenging to digest.

My ds told me he didn’t want to read it, because listening to me discuss the economy is depressing enough.  🙂  (He is reading it and enjoying it very much now.)  But I told him that I actually didn’t find it depressing at all – if anything, it almost cheered me up.  It’s bothered me for many months now to feel like I was seeing things that no one was expressing the slightest bit of concern about, and I felt bringing them up would cause me to be labeled paranoid (though now the regular news is a lot more alarming than what I shared with friends thirteen months ago).  Somehow it heartened me to see it all outlined just the way it was, to know what we’re really going to be dealing with and why, and that it’s not my overactive negative outlook (I’m not a pessimist by nature at all).   It’s always easier to deal with something concrete than something vague.  So go get it from your library and get educated!

Avivah