I have been having the most amazing experience in the last two weeks. Suddenly several good friends from the past who I lost touch with are popping up again into my life! It’s uncanny. One person would be really nice but this sudden inpouring of people who remained close to my heart even after losing touch is just incredible.
Two of these reconnections came through my ds21. He called a couple of weeks ago and told me to guess who his new roommate is. I guessed the son of a friend who lives in Israel who I used to be close with. ‘No’, he said, adding in an offhanded way, ‘though he also just started at the yeshiva’! It turns out his new roommate is the son of a good friend in Canada who he was together in gan with – in Israel – when they were both three! His yeshiva has only 37 guys, mostly Americans, and yet the son of two friends from Israel (who used to be our immediate neighbors in a building of only four families) and another young man from Canada – and of course my son, who came from the US – all ended up together!
The next friend I lost touch with when I moved from Israel to the US about 15 years ago. Initially we sent one another letters (remember what communication was like before cheap/free international calling and email?) but over time that petered out. She somehow found my contact information and we enjoyed our first talk in 15 years. She said to me, “Avivah, it doesn’t feel as if any time at all has gone by when I’m talking to you!” It really didn’t.
Lastly is the reconnnection of a dear friend from high school/seminary. She was with me at my stepfather’s funeral when we were both 16, she was there when my mom flew to Israel for my wedding and her luggage got left behind – she accompanied my mom to the airport to pick it up an hour before my wedding was scheduled to begin. (In case you’re wondering, we held off the reception until they got back – it was a mad rush.) We last saw each other when my oldest was three months old. And now after 21 years, thanks to a picture posted by a classmate of hers on Facebook, we reconnected. (Please daven for Chaya Raizelle bas Chana Shaina that the medical diagnosis she receives today is clear.)
When I had considered trying to get back in touch with friends, I thought maybe they wouldn’t be interested, they’d be busy – life moves on and maybe I still felt a connection but they didn’t. But it wasn’t like that at all. They were all as delighted to speak with me as I was to speak to them. The connections you make when you’re younger and have more time for friendships are very difficult to duplicate as you get older and busier.
I’ve been blessed with friends who are such incredible people – they were then and they’ve only become more amazing women throughout the years. As I listened to each of them, I kept thinking what special people they are. I’m really, really fortunate to have people in my life who have inspired and encouraged me and during our recent conversations, they continued to do so.
I have such a deep sense of love for these friends and I’m so grateful that it was possible to for us to be in one another’s lives again after so long. True friendships are a special gift. Now we have to make the effort to keep the rekindled friendship going!