Our three year old is having serious surgery today – prayers requested

When Yirmiyahu was born, it was discovered that he had vesicoureteral reflux that has led to kidney damage.  Sometimes this improves on its own but after three years, it remains at the most severe level.

All the doctors have agreed that he needs to have this surgery and I’m grateful to be able to live in a time and place in which this can be performed.  But it’s a very serious surgery and of course I’m concerned.

My husband has been feeling anxious about this, but I was feeling quite relaxed about it until a few days ago, when I sitting with the kids doing a puzzle and spontaneously started singing a song that starts like this: If I had to live my life without you near me, the days would all be empty, the nights would seem so long.  This was one of two songs that I sang many times with Yirmiyahu when he was in the pediatric intensive care, after almost dying when he was 9 months old.  I haven’t sung it since then.

The song was something that just came into my mind, and I recognized my subconscious was pushing something to the foreground that I’ve been pretending isn’t there.  This surgery was triggering some feelings from that past experience, which was an incredibly challenging time for me.

I was glad to have this awareness because you can’t deal with something you don’t know is there, and this has been an opportunity for me to strengthen my trust and belief in a positive outcome as well as in my ability to let the past be the past.

I’m really optimistic about the surgery and am so grateful we can have this done, so he can be as healthy on the inside as he looks on the outside.


Last night – he fell asleep at the table while listening to music

If you’d add your prayers to ours for a complete and smooth recovery for Yirmiyahu ben Avivah Michaelah, I’d be so appreciative!


26 thoughts on “Our three year old is having serious surgery today – prayers requested

  1. my thoughts are with your son and your whole family. My husband’s brother is a urologist. While his focus is adults and not pediatric patients if there are any questions you have or anything you want further clarification on, I’d be happy to help connect.

    1. Thank you for your offer, Eileen. I’ll be in touch if the need arises – Yirmiyahu got out of surgery a couple of hours ago and they said it went very well. The recovery will take time, though.

  2. Your adorable sweet little boy should have a Refuah Sheleima and bring you nachas for many, many years to come. He will be in my prayers.

    1. Amen! B gave his name at yeshiva today for a misheberach so you would have probably gotten it whether it was in the subject line or not! :)

  3. I am adding himto my Tehillim list. I misread the note I had in my planner for Wed. Oct. 28th. I am going todo extra Tehillim-RIGHT NOW!!!
    May he have a complete and easy refuah sheileima.!!!!

  4. Davening for a complete Rufuah Shelemah, with a long health life of Orech Yamim for Yirmiyahu ben Aviva Michaelah, may we hear good news.

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