Category: Intentional Spending

  • Using the base of the cauliflower

    A while back I made a discovery that will probably not be useful to the vast majority of you.  But it was interesting to me.  🙂

    My husband works in the resturant business, though they are so efficient about managing food waste that there’s rarely anything left over, so it’s not as though he comes home loaded down with leftovers every day.  If he does bring something home, it’s because they have no way to make money selling it.  One day, he brought home the bottom part of the cauliflower that was being cut off and would have been thrown away, the base of the it along with the green leaves attached to it.  He didn’t know anything about it but thought it looked like it should be edible.

    Honestly, it didn’t look appetizing to me, but we boiled it and suprise – it was really, really tasty!  We all liked it better than the part of the cauliflower we usually eat.  When his co-worker from Columbia saw him taking the stems today (they went through  7 cases of cauliflower today – they periodically prepare a large amount of pickled cauliflower at a time), he told him, “Yes, that’s the best part, it’s delicious!”  So it’s not much of a secret in other countries, it seems. 

    Stems from seven cases of cauliflower – isn’t that a lot, you wonder?   Yes, it was – about fifty pounds worth.  But what can you do with so much of a perishable vegetable that needs refrigeration?  I definitely don’t have that kind of space in my fridge!  I cooked up a bunch of it in my two largest pots, then cut it into smaller pieces – and canned it.  I still feel amazed at how compact things become when cooked.  Twenty pounds made four gallons, cooked .  My seven year old daughter enjoyed filling the jars with me after dinner – she especially enjoys using the magnetic wand to fish the lids out of boiling water, and then putting them on the jar.    But she did most of the other parts, too – filling them (all I did was pack it down) with the vegetables, then putting the spices in, and adding the boiling liquid before closing it up.

    It’s still processing in the pressure canner as I write, and I have two large pots full waiting to be cooked, and one cooked pot full – and we enjoyed a large amount of it with dinner as a side dish.  It’s good that it’s so yummy, because it’s worth the work.  I’m thinking that maybe I’ll can what is left tomorrow, if my day isn’t too hectic (though Fridays usually aren’t the best time for this kind of activity :)).

    Avivah 

  • How to buy in bulk

    I’m so used to mentioning buying in bulk, that I didn’t think about the fact that how to do it might be something some of you aren’t familiar with.

    Most people look to co-op buying to buy in bulk, but I’ve never participated in a co-op.  Their prices are cheaper than health food stores, but they aren’t cheap.  At least all the ones I looked into were pricey.

    Firstly, check your local ethnic stores – I get my rice in 20 lb bags at an Asian store.  I bought a case (24- 1 kilo bags) of buckwheat at the Russian store for much cheaper than I could get it in a health food store.  Things that are considered specialty items in health food stores are basic foods for their clienteles, and priced accordingly.  If you have an LDS storehouse near you, they have things like bulk wheat grains as well as other supplies.  I checked into them but they didn’t have what I needed when I needed it.  I used to buy directly from the bulk distributor that supplied the local health food stores, but then I found that Amish and Mennonite grocery stores carried the kind of things I wanted in bulk at prices that were pretty close to the huge distributor’s price.  It’s still quite a drive but it’s an hour closer, and when I go, I buy a lot.  So now that’s where I buy rolled/quick/steel cut oats, wheat, cornmeal, etc. 

    I stock up on beans and other grains at the regular groceries when they have sales.  I don’t know why, but I’ve always found it cheaper to buy the 1 or 2 lb bags than any bulk sources I’ve been able to find.  I periodically look at prices for 50 lb bags, but they are just too expensive.  I prefer shopping like this anyway, because it allows me to buy a wide variety of beans, instead of a couple of huge bags.

    I buy some veggies in bulk, too.  I once asked the manager of a local vegetable store if I could get a large bag (50 lb) of carrots, since it would be easier for me than bagging all of my own.  Not only did he say yes, but the price was half of what was listed.  I’ve done the same with some other veggies.

    I buy chicken by the case from a local butcher.  A nice perk is that he delivers, so it’s very easy.  I call, he brings it, and all I have to do is stick it in the freezer.

    I buy nuts and dried fruit from a store that sells mostly to resturants but sells their overruns at very cheap prices to the general public.  When I last went, I spent about $28, and got many, many pounds of peanuts and cashews (something like 70 lb, but I can’t remember the breakdown and don’t want to go look in the buckets to figure it out :o).  That’s a pretty typical trip for me.

    Whenever something is being sold for a really good price, I buy a lot of it.  That’s usually at the standard grocery stores.  People regularly ask me if I’m making a party or comments like that when they look in my cart, because I always have an unusually large amount of something.  When I was at the nut store two weeks ago, the woman next to me said, “You’re either making a party or you work in a zoo.”  I told her neither, I just have a large family.  The argument could be made that having a large family is a cross between an ongoing party and living in a zoo, lol!

    I constantly keep my eye open for new sources, and I periodically find them.  A couple of weeks ago I found the wholesale veggie distribution point for all the major and minor stores in the area – and they’ll sell direct to the public for a good price; you don’t even have to buy such large amounts.  I wouldn’t have found it if I hadn’t taken a few extra minutes to drive around (it was very intimidating looking, with dozens of loading docks and 18 wheelers loading up, no other regular buyers like me in sight) and ask if they would sell to me. 

    It took time to find all the places I buy from now.  Google bulk distributors for your area, ask managers at local stores if they will sell to you in bulk (they will – when we were vegetarian I used to buy soy milk by the case from our big box supermarket – they ordered it just for me).  They almost always will, and often you’ll get a discount for doing so.  Don’t assume that if they’ll sell it bulk or discount, they’ll have it posted.  They don’t.  I regularly walk out of certain stores buying things at a price lower than everyone else buying the same stuff, because of the amounts and my willingness to just ask what the discount is when I buy x amount.

    Have fun saving money and stocking your pantry!

    Avivah

  • The great acidophilus find!

    When I went shopping yesterday, I came home loaded down with boxes.  I picked up 2 cases of sweet potatoes (80 lb), 1 case of regular potatoes (50 lb), 1 case of red potatoes (50 lb), 1 case of organic bananas (40 lb), 30 lb of apples and you already read about the boniatos.  I also bought a 50 lb bag of rolled oats, about 20 lb of quick oats, a bunch of organic hard red wheat, and then all the other things, like canned goods.  That’s in addition to the 50 lb of carrots and 50 lb of cabbage that I picked up at the vegetable store a couple of days ago, along with all the other veggies in my order.  (Do you ever wonder how I find a place to store all this?  Trust me, it takes an effort.)

    I also found something in the dairy department that I decided to buy because it was such a good price, even though I wasn’t sure what it was.  I told my kids I was sure it was something that was usually very expensive, though!  It said Bio-K Plus, dairy culture.  No instructions on how to use it, just the ingredients and that it was packed with acidophilus.  A case of 12 boxes was $3, so I bought a box.  It didn’t look very appealing and I figured no one was buying it because no one knew what it was.  Even the cashier asked me what it was when I checked out.  After we packed everything into the van, I decided to pop back in and buy another case.  I knew that whatever it was, it was a good buy and I didn’t want to kick myself when I got home that I didn’t buy more. My main concern was where I would put it, since I only have one regular sized refrigerator.  

    When I got home, I googled (told you I love Google) Bio-K to see what this stuff was.  Well.  I found out that it is a very pricey nutritional supplement used to improve the health of the digestive system, in a yogurt like form, but very potent.  Each 3.5 oz container is equivalent to the acidophilus in 100 3.5 oz servings of plain yogurt.  Then I looked at the price – a box of six little bottles was $25.  And I had 12 of those boxes in one case!  And two cases of it! 

    I didn’t do the math, my kids did.  They informed me that it would have cost a bit over $600 dollars had I bought them at market value, instead of for $6.  Quite a savings, don’t you think?!? 

    So you might be wondering, why was it so cheap?  Was something wrong with it?  No, nothing was wrong with it, except that it was very close to the expiration date.  The way this store works is they buy truckloads of food items from various stores.  Sometimes things come through and whoever is pricing it doesn’t know what it is.  So they price it according to whatever they suppose it is.  In this case, they priced it the way they would a case of six containers of yogurt, and put it next to the yogurts. 

    I’ve already started giving it to the kids.  Digestive health is the most crucial aspect of health, since if your digestion and absorption aren’t efficient, then it can manifest itself in ill health in other seemingly unrelated areas.  It will be interesting to see if we notice any visible improvements to our health, but whether we notice it or not, it’s logical to me that it will be helpful for us.  So that was a nice find.  🙂

    Avivah

  • Boniato bonanza!

    Yesterday I did my huge monthly shopping trip, and came home with oodles of good stuff.  I really enjoy shopping for food and coming home with my bundles and boxes to take care of my family with – my husband says he’s glad he married someone who gets so much pleasure out of food shopping for the family.  I’m easy to entertain.  🙂

    At one of my favorite stores (a grocery outlet), there was a box that said, “Everything in this box is 25 cents a pound.”  I looked in the box, but didn’t recognize the vegetable inside, so I went over to the woman in charge of the vegetable section of the store and asked what it was.  She told me she didn’t know, but someone told her it was something like a sweet potato.  I asked them how much it would be if I bought a case (I think she’s getting used to me asking this, lol), and they said $7.50.  I figured for that price I should try it, and then when the young lady was helping me with the case, she heaped it full of lots more of them, so I ended up with at least 60 pounds (if my math was right, that’s less than .13 a lb!). 

    It looked vaguely familiar to me from an Asian vegetable store that I periodically stop in at, where I know it sells for $1 lb.  I didn’t know what it was called, but noticed a produce sticker on it that said ‘boniato’.  It didn’t ring a bell, so I googled it (I LOVE Google – I use it all the time), and came up with some information on how to store it, cook it, and some recipes.  It seems it’s more perishable than sweet potatoes, and they turn brown quickly when you peel them, so I peeled fast and kept a large bowl of water next to me to pop them into right away.  I prepared boniato pudding and served it for dinner – it was a mixture of shredded boniato (less sweet than a sweet potato and more starchy), milk, sweetener, coconut, eggs, and spices.  Except for the sugar it was filled with good stuff, and I used raw sugar and halved the amount it called for.  The kids gobbled it up.  I made two very full 9 x 13 pans, and they only ate one pan full, so I’ll give them the second one for breakfast tomorrow. 

    It’s fun to find new things to cook with and especially to do it on a lean budget!

    Avivah

  • Is driving a scooter a good option?

    Many of you know me from other places, so you remember that three years ago we converted a mini school bus to run on waste vegetable oil.  That was a successful experience that we all enjoyed, but we (sniff) sold the van last winter.  When we were driving the veggie van, I enjoyed watching the gas prices climb, feeling that the higher they went, the better an investment our van had been.  But since it’s no longer with us, my husband and I are discussing strategies to limit our dependence on a vehicle. 

    Why?  Well, obviously, gas prices are high, and in my opinion, they are going to continue steadily rising due to the limited nature of oil and the ever increasing demand from various countries that until now haven’t used much.  We already employ most of the strategies I hear suggested for saving on transportation costs: we have only one vehicle, we drive it as little as we need to, my husband carpools or takes public transportation to work all but one day a week (when those options aren’t available), we carpool my son to high school, I do one food shopping trip a month, and bunch all my errands as much as possible.  And we still are spending over $300 monthly on gas.

    So what to do?  I feel like it’s going to take something more drastic to make any difference, as the increasing costs of gas are outpacing whatever we may save by cutting back, so that we’re hardly managing to stay ahead of costs.  I thought about buying another mini school bus to convert, and spoke to the manager of the company we purchased from before, but the costs are much higher now than they were. 

    My husband didn’t like that idea, anyway.  He feels that we need to stop looking for cheaper ways to drive and instead, develop a different paradigm regarding getting where we need to go.  Things like, not automatically assuming the only way to get anywhere is a car – walking, taking a bus, staying home more.

    We spoke seriously as a family about the possibility of getting rid of our van, and as much as we liked that idea, it isn’t viable for us right now.  We live in an area where some things are walking distance, but not most.  The main things we need a vehicle for are: carpool for son, husband takes it to work one day a week, and shopping.  We considered paying someone to take our son to school, renting a van once a month to do all the shopping, walking more as a family and taking public transportation when we wanted to take a trip – but the numbers just don’t work.  If we paid someone to take our son to school (six trips/three roundtrip daily – current rate is $80 one way), that alone would cost almost as much as we spend in gas and insurance (we don’t have a car payment). 

    We’re looking into scooters as an option for my husband to use for his commute.  He has a 40 mile drive, in one direction, and replacing his driving even one day with a scooter would be a big help.  Scooters with motors under a certain size don’t require a special license or insurance, but they also aren’t allowed on roads that have speeds of over 45 mph.  So driving on the highway would be out.  My husband borrowed a scooter from a friend yesterday, to see how driving around feels, and is planning to take it to work tomorrow and see if the drive is manageable.  It is very cool looking, and he so far enjoyed zipping around with it.  For his commute, he mapped out a route that will take him along slower roads, so the drive will take much longer than usual.  It might be fun for a while, but a two hour drive in the outdoors isn’t something that seems that it will work long term. 

    For short commutes of 10 miles or less, though, I think scooters are the way to go.  They’re inexpensive to buy, very good on gas (about 70 – 100 mpg), and just right for when one person needs to get somewhere.  I’ll let you know how it works out!

    Avivah

  • Using a clothesline

    For the first eight years and four children of my marriage, I didn’t have a dryer.  I did have a freestanding clothes dryer rack, though, and that’s what I used.  It was simple, cheap, and it worked.

    How did we do it?  Well, the first thing was not being able to depend on an electric dryer, because we didn’t have one.  I’m sure that during those winter days that were damp I would have used a dryer if I had one. (Especially when we had a child who didn’t stay dry during the nights, and that meant lots of sheets and blankets regularly needing to be laundered!)  Necessity is the mother of invention, but it also means that we push ourselves to do good things that we might otherwised not be motivated to do – and hanging clothes outside to dry was one of those things for me.

    The second thing that helped was being aware of the weather and what clean clothes each child had available.  In the six months of sunny weather we were graced with, it wasn’t hard to wash clothes in the morning and have them dry an hour or so after hanging them up.  But in the winter, when the rack came indoors on cloudy days, and even on sunny days the cold weather precluded quick drying, I needed to plan ahead to ensure that everyone had clean clothes when they needed them. 

    When we moved to Washington state, the house we rented had a washer and dryer, and it was easier to just use what was there instead of setting up any other system.  And then we left the West coast, but didn’t really rethink the clothes drying issue enough to take action.

    What has me musing about drying clothes in the sun today?  After a very long time of wanting to get back to sun drying, my husband has put up a clothesline in the backyard for me.  Today was the first time in years that I was able to hang clothes outside in an organized way.  And I really enjoyed it – it’s one of those things that you can do, being present in the moment and feeling the pleasure of the outdoors while you do it.  I enlisted my just turned six year old son (had a birthday on Sat.) to help – I held the clothes in place, he clipped the clothespins on.

    About a year ago, I was looking into retractable clotheslines.  The price made me hesitate, but it sounded like a great idea – pull it out when in use, unhook it so it retracts when not in use.  But the reviews I read seemed lukewarm and I didn’t want to spend over $60 on junk.  So this year I headed to the Home Depot and bought a length of clothesline about 200 feet long.  It has been waiting for my husband to have time to put it up, but he finally was able to do it a few days ago.  He affixed two by fours to the side of the house and the side of the garage, then strung the clothesline between it, back and forth several times.  (He left the line too loose, out of good intentions, but that’s something he’s going to remedy for me tomorrow – the clothes were drooping quite low because there was so much slack in the lines.  It did make it very easy for the six year old to help, though, because it was so easy for him to reach!)

    I enjoy simplicity in life, and a clothesline is as simple as it gets!  I also like knowing that with a very small amount of time, I can save money on electricity, reduce my energy consumption and dependence on outside energy suppliers, get a little exercise and enjoy the smell of freshly dried sun kissed clothes.  Mmmm!

    Avivah 

  • Building up food stores for emergencies

    I mentioned a while ago that I was concerned about emergency preparation, and though it’s something that I think about almost daily, I keep pushing off sharing my thoughts here with you. I’m a positive person in general, and I don’t want to sound negative.  But I feel it’s not any kindness not to share something that could be important for your family.  So here goes.  🙂

    About four months ago, I bumped into someone I hadn’t seen for a while, and asked how things were.  He told me about his new position, writing up emergency preparation plans for the county in which he lived.  This involved a very large amount of research (I think he said nine months’ worth), and then he prepared his recommendation for the public, based on all his research.  I was very interested in what were the suggestions for an emergency were, as well as what could precipitate the kind of emergency that would necessitate using those suggestions.

    Firstly, the suggestions:  have three days of whatever you need in your house at any given time (food, medicine, water, hygiene products, etc).  I commented that three days of supplies didn’t seem like a very large cushion to me.  He agreed, and said that the recommendation is made based on what they think people will be able to hear, not on what will actually be most appropriate.  He said that provisions for a month would really be the kind of recommendation they might want to make, but know that most people would hear that number and it would seem so intimidating that they give up before even starting.  So they give a number that will give most people something to strive for, but something they feel is doable and realistic, because it’s better than nothing. 

    I understood this reasoning (though all of us would be wise to understand how much more than three days of supplies we really need than that), but I found it alarming to consider that most of the American population doesn’t have even three days of food in their home.  We live in a time of so much affluence, yet have become dependent on constant trips to the store for whatever we need, relying on the retailers to provide us with what we need when we need it.  We’re very fortunate to live in a world in which our food comes to use regularly through the various channels and with remarkably little interruption.

    But have you ever thought about what would happen if there were even a small disruption in one part of the supply chain? Each part is so linked to the next that even a small problem in one area could become a very big problem.  We can’t plan for every eventuality, and I don’t believe in living in fear and anxiety about what could go wrong.  But I do think that we need to make our best effort to be prepared for whatever eventualities may come our way. 

    What does this mean for me personally?  I try to have at least a month’s supply of food stored, working towards more (but with the increases in food costs, I’m finding it a challenge to get my pantry built up further while maintaining my current food budget).  Foods like grains and beans keep well for long term storage, as well as canned fruits, veggies, and fish.  Some recent things I’m doing with this in mind: I’ve started a garden so as to be less dependent on retailers, am learning about foods that grow locally in the wild, and have just bought a pressure canner and jars, so that I can preserve foods that will stay without electricity (we would lose all the food in the freezer if we lost power for more than a day or two), and are cooked and ready to eat with no additional prepping necessary.  I have bottled water stored in gallon jugs – not nearly enough for a long term emergency, but enough for two or three days for our family. My concern about insufficient water is part of what made me decide it’s time to learn to can, because having lots of dried beans on hand only helps if you have the water to cook them in!  But with a canner, I can preserve soups, chilis, beans, meat, fruits and veggies – in a ready to eat form, for long term storage.  (It also makes it convenient to have something cooked I can just pull out for dinner – I’n not thinking of it being useful only in case of a catastrophe!).

    Last week, we had a tornado watch in our area, and when residual parts of the storm hit here, it was scary.  But after a minute of panicked thinking, I mentally checked off: we have food (stored), water (bottled), light (candles and flashlights), etc – and that gave me peace of mind that I had done my best to be prepared. 

     Do I think that we’re going to have an emergency that will necessitate using these things?  I certainly hope not!  But I do believe that being prepared keeps an emergency from feeling like an emergency for you.  Life happens – illness, natural disasters, terrorism, layoffs.  I don’t believe that it’s possible to plan for every eventuality, and it’s not my goal.  I believe that G-d is in charge and I try my best to be a responsible steward of our resources for the sake of my family, who depend on me. 

    Avivah

  • More free tshirts!

    I’m adding this post to update my earlier post about the tshirts we were given yesterday.  I just got a call from the library branch we were at – my first thought was that I must have returned something without all of the cds.  But it was the lady who gave us the tshirts yesterday.  It seems that they had a staff meeting this morning and someone brought up  that it wasn’t right to give only two shirts to our family when we have eight kids.  So they all decided that they would give the other six kids tshirts, too! 

    I told her that I didn’t feel right for one family to get 8 shirts when there are so many kids who didn’t get even one.  She told me all the staff agreed to it and it was ‘a done deal’; they were only calling me to find out the kids’ sizes, not to ask me what I thought of it.  🙂

    I don’t know what to tell my kids when they ask why people do these things – I really don’t.  (They also wondered how the librarians knew our name and phone number, but that was easier to figure out.)  That’s because I just don’t know why.  Our kids dress nicely and certainly don’t look like they need clothes!  I think it must be because people have such good hearts and want to share good things with others, and maybe we just are in the right places at the right times.  But whatever the reason, wasn’t that nice?

    Avivah

  • Going to the library

    Yesterday afternoon we had a nice trip to the library.  It’s been a while since I’ve been, thanks to a new efficient system I set up.  I started ordering the books I want online, and have them sent to one of the branches.  My husband always takes the van to work on Sundays, and passes within five minutes of one of the branches, so he started picking up the books waiting for me every Sunday.  This has cut down on the time and gas I spend getting our books, but since this branch isn’t going to be open on Sundays anymore, I needed to pick up the books in person yesterday.  From now on, I’ll have them sent to a different branch that’s convenient for him that will still be open on Sundays.

    I always enjoy taking the kids to the library – it’s an easy outing that everyone really enjoys.  The kids all signed up for the summer reading program (I have mixed feelings about reading programs, but that’s another topic), and then got their piles of books to check out.  I had heard about a couple of free outdoor presentations of Shakespeare plays that will be this Thursday and next, and thought it would be nice to take the kids, so I checked for a book/audio version/video of the play to prepare them for it. (This morning I discovered that The Tempest, which is what I got materials for, is next week, and Comedy of Errors is this week.  Oh, well.)  They have a nice play area in the children’s section when the baby and toddler played, and I also picked up a dvd for our monthly family movie night.   

    When I first came in and was returning our books as I came in, the librarian started talking to me, and then told me that she wanted to give two free tshirts (that they sell each summer in conjuction with the summer reading program) to my kids, and asked if it was okay.  I asked why she was giving them away, and she said earlier in the day someone had bought two, and told her to give them to two kids who came in. 

    I don’t know how we ended up being the family whose kids got them, because it was after school hours when we went (usually I go early in the day when it’s quieter) and the library was hopping with kids.  Later when I checked out, I saw and thanked her again, and asked what made her choose us.  She said she didn’t know, the whole day she was waiting to give them out and as soon as she saw us come around the corner, she wanted us to have them. 

    I’ve seen this librarian a number of times before, and she always looks somewhat dour.  I’ve always been pleasant to her but she was so unresponsive that if I didn’t see she was like that with everyone, I would have thought she disliked me.  But yesterday, she was full of smiles when the kids thanked her and she later saw them wearing them (the boys I gave them to put them on when we got to the parking lot, and she happened to be leaving work and walking to her car so she saw them).  

    I commented to my kids on what a nice thing it was that she did that, and they all agreed.  Then one of my daughters said, “It seems things like that always happen to us.”  I don’t know if nice things happen to us any more than to anyone else, or we just notice them more.  But it does seem that we meet nice people everywhere we go, who not infrequently go out of their way for us!

    Avivah

  • Today’s lucky finds

    Don’t you love when you get things you need, when you need them, and they are free?!?

    Today my 7 and 9 year old asked if they could ride their bikes together, and since they had finished doing everything they were supposed to do, I didn’t see why not.  They came home flushed with excitement, and told me how they saw a sign that said FREE and beneath it was a portacrib, infant car seat, toddler rocking chair, and a couple of other things.  They raced home with their bikes, and without mentioning anything to me, ran back to the stuff, and brought it all inside to me. 

    They were so excited and happy to have been the ones to find things that were so nice and useful for us!  The portacrib is beautiful – everything looks new, actually.  You can’t tell that any of the items were used at all, except that they aren’t wrapped in the initial packaging. 

    We have a portacrib that the baby sleeps in during the day, but at night he sleeps on in my room, which is two flights above the main floor where we spend the day (we wouldn’t be able to hear him when he wakes up from a nap in the day, which is why he has two sleeping places).  But I was recently thinking that we’re going to need to get a second portacrib for the night since he’s really outgrown the bassinet that he’s been in until now.  Now we have it!

    My toddler loves the mini rocking chair – he keeps pushing anyone who tries to sit in it without asking him out and reminds them that it’s his.  He’s really good about sharing whatever he has if people ask, though, so I don’t mind. 

    I sure do appreciate whoever it was who wanted to share what they had with others!   My kids have become experienced at finding treasures.  Our house has an alley it backs up to, shared with the neighbors on another street who also back up to it.  Several times people have put things out next to the trash, but not in it, obviously there so that someone could notice it and take it, and my kids have brought it home.  (We do the same thing when we have things to give away.)  I’ve had to restrain them sometimes, though, since they get so caught up in the thrill of the hunt that they’ve occasionally brought things home that are just more clutter to deal with.  But generally they have a really good sense of what I’ll okay and what I won’t. 

    My husband and I have remarked to one another about how easy it is to live off the ‘fat of the land’ in America.  Seriously, in this country we have so much that lots of things in excellent condition are given or thrown away just because someone doesn’t want it anymore and can’t be bothered to take it to somewhere that accepts donations.  Just because it happens so often doesn’t mean it isn’t a huge blessing, and I regularly share with my children the feeling I have about how fortunate we are, so that we don’t take all that we have, or all that we’ve received for free, for granted. 

    Avivah