We’ve emerged from the two week period of sick children and it’s great to have everyone up and about again!

One of the flu symptoms everyone experienced was deep exhaustion One of my teen sons, seeing one of the younger boys sleeping a lot, asked me if it I felt worried to see such an active child completely passive for so long.

Although as a younger mother I got more nervous if a child was sick, in general twenty or thirty years ago people were more relaxed when a child was under the weather. It was understood that kids get sick and with time will get better; there wasn’t an expectation that we had to run to a doctor and medicate every symptom. With a lot of years of experience I’ve developed a steadfast sense of trust in the healing process.

When I look at a feverish child with flushed cheeks, huddled under a blanket and sleeping for long periods of time, I don’t feel anxious – I see the amazing ability of the human body to take care of itself, to cleanse itself of toxins and restore health and harmony to the body. The body is doing what it’s meant to do – burn out the bad stuff and build future immunity. While the body is working hard to neutralize the germs, the child is sleeping because the healing process takes a lot of energy. A child who just wants to sleep and isn’t interested in eating is doing just the right thing.

That fever is our friend and working hard for the child, if we can just let it do it’s job. This is why I don’t use fever reducers. (If a fever is extremely high, there are natural ways to bring it down, and I did once do this with a twelve year old whose fever spiked very high.)

To nurture the child during this time, I’ll give him drinks, warm blankets, a hot water bottle, and let him sleep in unusual places that bring him comfort. For most of the kids this was in the living room, on a mattress on the floor or on the couch. On one sunny day, I placed mattresses outside and three of them slept for hours in the sun. Sometimes I’ll take steps to address other symptoms (eg homemade onion honey cough syrup for coughing), and giving vitamin D is a great way to shorter the duration and the intensity of the symptoms.

But overall, my job is to stay calm and support the healing process.

One of my grandsons was sick and my daughter called to ask about when she should go to a doctor. I don’t tell my children to do with their children; I’ll only offer my person experience and perspective. My position is, if you feel worried, go to the doctor. I’ve done that several times over the years when something was outside of my experience and it provided confirmation that the child just had a virus and I could relax.

Right now the flu is going around, so I share this perspective with the hope that it may be of encouragement and support to you when your children are feeling under the weather. Remember, the flu is a vitamin D deficiency – some doctors have said you can not get the flu unless your vitamin D is low. Read my post here that talks about the vitamin D hammer for the flu.

Avivah