Though we’ve had tremendous progress on the kitchen, Wednesday evening the boys and I were all really tired and felt a bit disappointed that we hadn’t accomplished as much as we hoped to that day.
I have a tendency to want to get the tasks on my list done and then do the relaxing or enjoyable things. That’s fine on a normal day when there’s time for everything, but at times that there’s a huge amount of tasks to do, the time for rest doesn’t come and it can lead to burnout. I’m protective of myself from these tendencies, and despite the many things piled high in the kitchen waiting to be organized, when I woke up the next morning I resolved to begin the day with ample quiet and calm.
I headed to the chicken coop.
I take care of the chickens daily and sometimes spend long minutes in the coop, but almost never take time to sit down. Yesterday morning I pulled up a chair next to the brooder housing the week old chicks, and took out three chicks to hold.
It’s very relaxing being with chickens. It’s also very interesting watching them; someone coined the term ‘chicken tv’ and that’s accurate. The more I watch them, the more interesting it is to learn their behavior patterns and understand more of why the do what they do.
I spent over an hour sitting in the coop, and all three cute balls of fluff climbed right up from my lap to perch on my shoulder.

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Yesterday’s goal was to finish the kitchen. It was the last day the younger four kids would be in school before Pesach vacation began, and once they’re home, my ability to get things done goes down quite a bit.
There’s a lot of work that had to happen between the last post when big pieces were in place, to having all of the small details finished. Those details are what make a huge difference between an end result being merely functional or really nice.
The kitchen cabinets were adjusted so they will be higher for our tall family. The hanging cabinets are hung. The toekicks are installed.
The countertops are cut and installed.
The countertops were my biggest concern, since this isn’t work we have any experience with. It was dd28 who encouraged me about this – last year (thanks to our example), they put a new/used kitchen into their rental apartment, doing all of the work themselves. However, they also cut the countertop, something I had considered outside of our capacity in all of our past kitchen renovations. She told me it was easier than she expected, and it was her confidence that made me willing to try it.
Before the boys began working on the countertops, I asked them if they would be upset if they did the work, but then wasn’t happy with the result and wanted to get new countertops. They said it would be okay. Then, when they were taking off the first countertop from the island, something happened and for a long minute they thought it might have cracked. At that moment, it was really important to me that they not feel pressured about this project, and I told them that if something cracked or didn’t turn out well, it was okay – we would buy new countertops. (It didn’t crack.)
The countertops were a huge project that took two days. Though they all worked on it together, it was ds17 who made all of the cuts. Ds17 was exacting in his work and he did an amazing job, with an end result that was better than the best I hoped for.
When the plumber (who’s also a general handyman and has been for decades) came back to finish the final bit of work he had remaining , he was very impressed by how the countertops turned out. He told me he’s never tried to do work like that and exclaimed, “Your boys are really something, they really know how to do the work!”
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We began the kitchen on Monday morning and…drumroll….. Thursday night it was finished! I am super pleased with how the kitchen turned out; it was worth all of the effort.
I’ve reorganized all of the cabinets and cleaned them for Pesach; what’s left is to put away the odds and ends that don’t quite belong anywhere. It was a long and productive day for us all; today it will be so nice to do all of the cooking for Shabbos in our new kitchen.

Though there’s a bit less counter and cabinet space than I previously had, the space is much more usable. Everything feels bigger and better. We now have a spacious kitchen with plenty of workspace and storage space. It’s light and airy and has a beautiful view. I love it! In addition to other smaller advantages that I’m happy about, we achieved our two main goals: since it’s a mostly open floor plan with the living/dining area, it will be more comfortable when hosting guests, and finally, people won’t enter our house directly into our kitchen anymore!


The final detail remaining to do for the kitchen is to tile the backsplash. The tiles will be delivered on Monday, and I don’t want to push to get it done because there’s still plenty to do before Pesach. I also ordered some tiles to fill in the broken area on the floor of the old kitchen area where the plumbing pipes were. Unfortunately I couldn’t find a perfect match but since the entire first floor of our home has the same tiling and I’m not interested in retiling all of it, that small area won’t be ideal but it will be done. I do hope to tile that before Pesach.
I kept reminding myself and the boys, “Done is better than perfect!”
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We’re now turning our attention to finishing the area that the kitchen used to be in, that is now the living/dining room.
The staircase railing has been installed.
Here’s the progression of what that looked like:




The next big project is removing the wall tiling from the old kitchen area and repainting the walls.

Once the cabinets were taken out and the tiles were off, an even bigger project remained- with the tiles gone, there was a broken thick layer of tile adhesive stuck to the wall. In order to paint, the wall would need to be spackled, but to spackled, all of that tile glue had to be chipped off with a drill. This was a tremendous amount of work, all of which was done by ds15. Once the adhesive was off, the walls looked quite beat up.

Ds15 has done all of this project and did a lot of the spackling before he and ds18 switched places. Ds18 had been working on building the chicken coop while ds17 finished the last part of the kitchen, so ds15 went out to finish the coop while ds18 did more spackling. The wall is going to need several layers of spackle before it will be smooth and can be painted; each layer has to dry and be sanded before the next layer can be applied. It’s not a one day project.
Also before painting, the electrician needs to finish his work insetting the electrical outlets. When he began moving the outlets and light switches, he made them with visible tracks and plastic boxes that sit on top of the wall. I didn’t see this until he had done several and asked him to change it so that everything is set in the wall. Otherwise it looks tacky. We’ll need to spackle all of the areas that he works on when he finishes. As I said previously, it took him quite some time to get here so I don’t know when he’ll finish up.
Another project is the area under the stairs.
This area has been used for storage, and that was concealed by the kitchen wall units. Once they were moved, the storage space is visible and it doesn’t look nice. I’d like to close it in and put an access door there, using the door that was part of the separate entrance that we took down. You can look above at the pictures of the stairs and the railing and you’ll see what I’m referring to.
Yesterday afternoon one of the boys cut it down to fit the shorter entrance area but I’m not at all happy with how it looks. I’m concerned that once it’s installed no one will later be willing to replace it with something that looks better. My husband and the boys all think it looks fine but I’m the most visual person of them all so that’s not surprising. At this point, redoing the door means a huge amount of work that no one, including me, is interested in right now. So I once again I remind myself, ‘Done is better than perfect!”
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One day midweek, ds15 took out our welder to try to figure out how to weld. This was providential timing since the plumber arrived right after that. Seeing the welder and the pile of metal beams that had been taken down from the porch, the plumber commented that now they can build something with it. Ds15 told him they don’t know how to weld very well.
The plumber used our welder to finish installing the railing. Having seen how good the boys were at other building related things, when he finished working he took the time to give ds15 and ds17 (ds18 and I were gone that day) some instruction. Just ten minutes was all they needed to move beyond what they already knew how to do, to really being able to weld properly. This is a skill that we all felt our family was missing. We can build with wood, and building with metal is somewhat similar except you melt the metal together instead of screwing wood together.
Ds afterward cut pieces of metal and practiced welding them onto a post, and when the plumber came back the next day, he looked at it and said it was well done.

Now ds15 and ds17 have learned to weld, and they’ll be able to show ds18. We’re all pleased to have a new skill learned.
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Not only was the kitchen finished yesterday, so was the chicken coop! It looks great. Ds18 did most of the building for this, with ds15 helping out. It’s a really nice coop. They used our scrap wood supply to build it, and the supply is now almost completely finished. Ds15 used some scrap metal that we had (not a weldable metal) and made a beautiful door, lightweight and strong. I marvel at how they get things done.
It’s been a productive week, but it hasn’t been all work. “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy!” Each morning the boys spend several hours in shul learning Torah before coming home and starting on our work projects. One afternoon they took a hike with friends midday; last night they had a singing circle at a local spring with other friends. They always stop whatever they’re doing before it’s time to go to shul for mincha/maariv and don’t resume after coming home at night. While it’s been busy, it’s been balanced, and as I said previously, it’s a really nice energy when they work together.
Avivah